If I think that it is common decency that I be informed as to the time the ex plans to pick up the kids on Thursday mornings? Is it too much to ask that he let me know if he's going to bring them back late?
To me it seems like general courtesy to set a schedule and be prompt. I guess I'm just unreasonable though. I sent a message and called to see if I could find out if he was coming early (before 9 a.m.) because he often does. I needed to take a shower though and was waiting around on him. He didn't respond. So I told the kids that if he came while I was in the shower to let me know and I'd be there as soon as I could but not to leave till I was out. It seemed like a safety issue to me... I don't think I should get out of the shower and not be absolutely certain about where the kids are.
Then there's the fact that they are supposed to be home at noon. When they still weren't back at 12:35 p.m. I called and asked what was up. He tells me they are eating and will be back soon... and hangs up on me. Isn't he lovely?!
So they finally show up at almost 1 p.m. and when I send the kids inside I tell him that I would appreciate it if he could communicate with me about when he would be picking up and dropping off the kids so that I can plan my life accordingly. So he tells me "the world doesn't revolve around you Elissa, and nothing in the court papers says 9-noon so I don't have to do anything." Um, yeah dumbass... nothing in the court papers gives you anything at all remember?! (don't worry, that part was my own internal dialogue - I didn't say it out loud!) Anyway, the reality is he has no custody or visitation. He doesn't have any court ordered right to anything so I would think he would try to be cooperative! But then there I go trying to use logic where none exists... and as I well know, that never works!
Oh, and by the way he didn't bring me a check for the support he is supposed to pay... something about having lost the checkbook again...amazing!